Lahore : Chairman of the Supreme Council of Minhaj-ul-Quran International, Professor Dr. Hassan Mohi-ud-Din Qadri, while expressing his views in an intellectual session of question and answer, said that it is common practice in our society that wives are slandered for lack of sustenance and childlessness, which is an exploitative and ignorant thought. This thought is related to the ruthless Arab society of pre-Islam.
The cause of childlessness is a medical condition that can affect both women and men, but unfortunately in the Indian subcontinent, women are held responsible for it. Whether it is livelihood or children, as Muslims, we should believe that it is related to the perfect power of Allah, the Almighty. In Surah Shura, Allah, the Almighty, says, “We grant sons to whom We will and daughters to whom We will.” And this is the case with livelihood, as the Provider is the essence of Allah, the Almighty, who provides sustenance even to living beings in stones and fire. We hear and read countless such incidents every day. Such incidents occur within our families and around us that sometimes in the first few years of marriage, a couple is deprived of a male child. After five or ten years, Allah Almighty blesses them with the blessing of children.
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We read an incident regarding Sayyiduna Ibrahim (AS) that Allah Almighty blessed him with a son like Hazrat Ismail at a time when hope had vanished. Hazrat Ibrahim (AS) himself says, “O Allah, how will you provide me with children and a son when my hair has also turned white, I have become old, and my wife has also become barren?” So Allah Almighty said, “We grant the blessing of children to whomever we want and whenever we want.” We should always act realistically and with high morals on this social and societal issue and should not slander women for being childless.
In this regard, the high morals of women should also be kept in mind so that they Even though she knows the reasons for childlessness and lack of livelihood, she does not complain about it. However, most of the time, the man and his family members blame the wife for not having children and then they regularly beat her up. If a woman complains and blames the man for childlessness, just imagine what will be left for this man and his family? Therefore, in such matters, one should deal with them honorably and never blame a woman by considering her weak.
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A second marriage due to childlessness is not a solution to the problem. This issue can also arise in second and third marriages. Therefore, attention should be paid to diagnosis and treatment in such problems. If a person acts patiently in the event of childlessness, increases his trust in Allah, and continues to conduct his affairs in life while being content with His pleasure, then it is possible that Allah, the Almighty, may like this act of humility and modesty and bless him with the blessing of children. Allah, the Almighty, created Hazrat Jesus (peace be upon him) without a father and contrary to the established principles of birth, showing that Allah is capable of everything and is not beholden to worldly causes and causes.
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Therefore, do not destroy your family structure and system by going to second marriages just for children. Have hope in Allah, Allah is capable of everything. The unity and mutual love of two families will not deteriorate under the influence of desires. He said that another thought is fostered in our society that livelihood is the destiny of a woman, although the blessings of marriage certainly increase livelihood, but if the economic weakness comes in the house and the situation deteriorates, which have regular reasons, such as the wrong decisions of the man, unnecessary extravagance or natural disasters, this proverb is used as a weapon against the woman, she is taunted by her family that she has suffered from a shortage of livelihood, this is a wrong and misleading thought. Making a woman a target for taunting in such cases is against Islamic teachings and human ethics. While answering various questions, he said that Allah Almighty has given direct instructions through the Holy Quran on matters of family life and in this regard, guidance has been provided in great detail on matters of marriage and divorce. Whatever the circumstances, no man or any family has the right to hurt or humiliate a woman. If separation is inevitable, Allah Almighty has also explained the procedure and this issue can also be dealt with in a noble manner.
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He said that in many families, displeasure is expressed on the birth of a daughter and the woman is held responsible for it, whereas today medical science has proven that the man is directly responsible for the birth of a daughter or son. The woman has only one type of chromosome while the man has two types of chromosomes as part of the birth process, therefore the birth of a daughter or son is by the man. He further said that some people are obsessed with second marriages for the sake of children, and a complete medical examination should be done in this regard. Modern medical science easily identifies the cause of infertility and now there are treatments available.
Now, there have been successful experiments with test tube babies, and beyond that, modern methods are being adopted. You can even adopt someone’s son or daughter. In fact, I would suggest that in such a situation, adopt an orphan and take that orphan under your guardianship and include him in your livelihood. The Holy Prophet (PBUH) loved orphans immensely and consoled them. Perhaps this act of yours will become a blessing for you in the Hereafter and you will be blessed with religious and worldly comforts. We often hear this blessed hadith that the Holy Prophet (PBUH) was on his way to offer Eid prayers when he met an orphan child crying on the way. When he asked him the reason for his crying, he said, “Today, every child is going to offer Eid prayers with his parents. I wish my parents were there so I could be with them.” He said, “Then don’t worry, Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah (PBUH), is your father. Give recognition and recognition to the orphans and please Allah and His Messenger (PBUH). Separation is not the solution to the problem. If there are any unspoken reasons for separation and you believe that it is inevitable, then follow the same method of separation that has been explained in detail in the Holy Quran and the blessed hadiths.”
